Reader,

I want you to fail more.

I want you to make giant mistakes.

Because mistakes and failures are the launchpad and stepping stones towards the life you want to create.

I want you to push yourself to do something you've never done before, at least once every week.

I want you to learn something new.

I want you to talk to someone new.

I want you to say "YES" to the things you want to experience and create in this lifetime.

I want you to launch yourself into the life you envision for your future self and see if you have what it takes to hold it.

Because that's the only way you'll know if what you dream of is truly for you. That's the only way you will stop thinking "What if..."

I want this for you because I want the same for myself.

I want to stop playing it so safe.

A few weeks ago, my boyfriend said something that hit me because it was true. He mentioned how he thought I was treating coaching as a hobby.

Oof😳 I felt that one.

I already knew this, too, but when he said it, it hurt that I couldn't deny it. By having a full-time job, I have been treating coaching as my little side hobby, instead of a serious business.

Technically, I didn't need my business to work, so I kept it small. Less chance for me to feel bad about it failing.

I was trying to keep myself safe from going all in, and it not working. So, I went halfway in. That way, if I failed, it wouldn't be that bad. It wouldn't be that painful. I could say it was because it was not that important and that I was only doing it as a side gig anyway. I would be "safe".

But here's the reminder that bruised my ego and that I needed to hear myself:

"What's keeping you safe is keeping you stuck".

I want us to stop convincing ourselves that we're okay, that we're 'content', that we're being smart and practical, when in reality we know that we're keeping ourselves small, that we're keeping ourselves safe, that we're keeping ourselves comfy and cushy, instead of going fully for it.

Here's a video from the great Roger Federer about why we have to stop striving for perfection and avoiding failure, and celebrate it instead.

Let's stop hiding and stop quietly falling into the trap of believing that there's nothing we can do to change it.

Instead, let's start admitting the truth. Let's start acknowledging the parts of our lives that don't feel as good, or where we're not completely showing up as fully as we could.

I will ask you the question that I asked myself when I noticed that I was treating my coaching business as a backup plan instead of THE plan:

"What’s keeping you safe… but,at the same time, also keeping you playing small?" "What is your safety net and what is really protecting you from?"

Be ruthlessly honest with yourself.

Because the moment you name it, you start breaking the hold it has on you.

Would you like to connect and share it? Hit reply here. This is a safe place.💛

Release the weight

I recently watched an old video about a Professor sharing a powerful lesson with a classroom full of students.

In the video, the Professor holds up a glass of water and asks the students to determine how heavy it is. The students start answering a variety of weights, but the Professor responds that the weight doesn't really matter.

He says:

Often, the hardships we experience in life come not from the weight of the situation or the challenge we're facing, but from how long we choose to hold onto them.

All the stresses, all the fears, and all the doubts that we have, they all get heavier the longer we hold onto them.

• It's not the weight of the discussion itself that weighs you down. It's ruminating on it over and over again and not allowing yourself the space to forgive and be forgiven.
• It's not the weight of failure itself that holds you back. It's reminding yourself of it over and over as a reason why you shouldn't try again.
• It's not the weight of regret itself that keeps you stuck. It's thinking about the past over and over and not allowing yourself to move on from it.

The mental load you're carrying is not solely from the situation or from the challenge you're facing. The mental load comes from how long you're choosing to hold onto it.

Release what's holding you down. Put the weight down.

What is serving you right now?

Often, when we audit the things that make up our lives, we have to ask ourselves if they're serving us right now.

Make a list of the things that make up your daily life. Include your:

• Habits
• Mindsets
• Tools
• Beliefs
• Routines

Then, make it a point to notice the benefits and the costs of those things, how they became a part of your life, and what is no longer serving you to move you forward anymore.

Frequently, many of the habits, mindsets, tools, beliefs, and routines we have in our lives are there because they served us at one moment, at a specific stage of our lives.

But we have to make it a point to ask ourselves often if they're still serving us and helping us to move forward. Or if they have become a constraint instead.

So, "What is serving you right now?"

What I'm loving right now

✨ Grounding (a.k.a. barefoot therapy).​
I’ve been reconnecting with this simple practice, literally walking barefoot on grass, sand, or soil, and I forgot how instantly calming it is. A neighbor recently reminded me how much it changes his day, and now I’m paying attention to the difference it makes. If you’ve been feeling stressed, try 5 minutes outside today.
👉 If you’re curious, here’s a short explanation of the science behind grounding.​

📝 The 1-1-1 Journaling Method (my new favorite ritual).​
I’ve never been consistent with journaling… until this. Sahil Bloom’s 1-1-1 method takes less than 2 minutes:

• 1 win from the day
• 1 point of tension
• 1 moment of gratitude

It’s fast, simple, and surprisingly grounding.

👉 Here’s where you can read more about the 1-1-1 method.​

🍫 The Perfect Bar & RXBAR (my go-to whole-food protein bars).​
I’m a total protein bar snob, and these are two of the only brands I trust. No fake or artificial flavors or colors, no weird ingredients, just whole foods that actually taste good. If you’re trying to get more protein without junk, start here.
👉 Perfect Bar​
👉 RXBAR​

One question for the week ahead

P.S.: If you feel like you're constantly waiting for the "right time", for the perfect plan, for you to be "ready", this episode is a MUST listen. If you're tired of letting fear dictate your life, this is for you! Why You’ll Never Feel Ready (And That’s Actually Good News)​

P.P.S: If you've felt stuck and have been craving strategy, community, and a plan that actually helps you start moving, gives you the energy, and has you taking more bold action in your life, my new Live Workshop "From Stuck to Started" is for you! This workshop will be a limited spots, Black Friday promotion. If you're interested in being the first to receive the information, sign up here →​

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